As near as I can tell, this arrangement seems perfectly euvoluntary. Odd then that both the headline and the content of the story seems to have been written to maximize obnoxiousness.
The "Mother's Dilemma" is the economic question of how to organize household resources. Typically, household wealth is commonly held and decisions over who gets what are determined by either a single dictator or a joint committee. What mom and dad say goes. But if other families want to allocate their resources differently, it boggles the mind that such decisions could possibly be anyone else's business. The relationship between home and castle seems increasingly tenuous. More's the pity.